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Thoughts on “Minimalism: Living a Meaningful Life” Chapter 4 9/1/2012

For the next 7 weeks, starting on Monday 8/6, I am going to read a book called “Minimalism: Live A Meaningful Life” by Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus. I am reading one chapter a week (as suggested) and see where I end up. I want to invite you to join me for the next 7 weeks if it sounds interesting to you. Post what jumps out at you, I would love to compare notes!

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Chapter 4 of Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life: Passions

Finding Your Passion

“What would you do with your life if money wasn’t as object? Most people who are searching for their passion are still deeply anchored to some (if not all) of the four anchors mentioned above, which causes them to articulate a fairly common response: I don’t know. If you don’t know, it’s likely because you’re still anchored.”

Write down your answers to the following:
When was the last time you felt overwhelmed with excitement?
What were five other (different) experiences like this?
Why were you excited each of those times?
Which experiences were you excited about for the longest period of time?
Was there a common thread among the things that excited you?
What did excitement look like? (How did your physiology change in these situations? Posture? Facial expressions? Breathing? Heart rate? What else?)

****Please don’t rush through this. If you are not sure what you would do if money was not an issue, take time to reflect on the above questions. John and I were just talking at dinner last night how we do not take the time or even appreciate the concept of stopping and thinking, rolling things over and over in our minds, picking them apart piece by piece. I think our busy culture is in conflict with this type of thinking, but it is so valuable! Think about it and don’t let it go until you start seeing pieces come together.

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Thoughts on “Minimalism: Living a Meaningful Life” Chapter 4 8/29/2012

For the next 7 weeks, starting on Monday 8/6, I am going to read a book called “Minimalism: Live A Meaningful Life” by Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus. I am reading one chapter a week (as suggested) and see where I end up. I want to invite you to join me for the next 7 weeks if it sounds interesting to you. Post what jumps out at you, I would love to compare notes!

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Chapter 4 of Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life: Passions

Removing the Anchor of Certainty
“Certainty feels nice – it makes you feel comfortable, it makes you feel warm and fuzzy – but it’s often the biggest underlying reason you don’t make the changes you want to make in your life. That is, you’re not happy with your current situation, but you’re comfortable enough today for something that could potentially be less comfortable tomorrow, thus you don’t change. In other words, you associate more pain with changing than you associate pleasure with the change.”

This one is a tough one. Fear of the unknown and fear of failure jump out at me! I guess it is about focusing on the pleasure that comes with the change. Hmmmm (That’s me thinking)!

Removing the Anchor of Money. We recommend the following changes:

  • Get out of debt.
  • Sell your house.
  • Get rid of cable at home.
  • Cancel your bills (other than utilities).
  • Get rid of the Internet at home.
  • Get rid of your TV.
  • Sell or donate anything you don’t use.
  • Stop buying material possessions.
  • Pay off, sell, or get rid of your car.
  • Walk instead of drive when possible.

John and I have started the process of tackling some of these. I have not started “walk instead of drive when possible”. I think I am going to try to work on that one. What do you think of this list?

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Thoughts on “Minimalism: Living a Meaningful Life” Chapter 4 8/27/2012

For the next 7 weeks, starting on Monday 8/6, I am going to read a book called “Minimalism: Live A Meaningful Life” by Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus. I am reading one chapter a week (as suggested) and see where I end up. I want to invite you to join me for the next 7 weeks if it sounds interesting to you. Post what jumps out at you, I would love to compare notes!

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Chapter 4 of Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life: Passions

“Unless you’re doing something with your life you’re passionate about, you will not feel fulfilled, you will not experience a meaningful life. This is often the root cause of that empty feeling so many people experience.”

Removing Anchors to Find Your Passion:
“It is often difficult to discover your passions because you’re stuck in the vapid muck of your daily routine. It’s easy to embrace the uninspiring lifeless cycle of your everyday work. Lather, rinse, repeat. It seems too easy. That’s because it is too easy. It’s easy to get anchored down by our daily lives, and it’s much harder to free yourself of those anchors.”

*****This is key! My life was so cluttered with “things to do”, “stuff I wanted”, “stuff I had”, “maintenance on the things I had”, “things I felt obligated to do”, and on and on. I had so much “stuff” around me that I could not and did not have time to see anything else. Simplifying in life (and that will look different for everyone) is so important because then you start to have time to discover your passions and start to live them out!
Removing the Anchor of Identity:
“People get so wrapped up in their vocation as their identity that it’s hard for them to realize they are so much more – they are beautiful in so many ways.”

“You are a growing person, a contributing person, a healthy person, a person who is capable of so much more…What other meaningful labels can you use to identify yourself?

****This is great homework! Schedule some quiet time this week to make a list of meaningful labels of yourself.

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Thoughts on “Minimalism: Living a Meaningful Life” Chapter 3 8/25/2012

For the next 7 weeks, starting on Monday 8/6, I am going to read a book called “Minimalism: Live A Meaningful Life” by Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus. I am reading one chapter a week (as suggested) and see where I end up. I want to invite you to join me for the next 7 weeks if it sounds interesting to you. Post what jumps out at you, I would love to compare notes!

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Chapter 3 of Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life

Changing Yourself and Making Difficult Decisions:

“We all change over time. Sometimes we grow closer to certain people, sometimes we grow apart, sometimes we fall out of love, sometimes we change together. Just because someone has changed, doesn’t mean they don’t love you, it doesn’t mean they don’t care about you immensely; it just means they’ve changed.”

“The only person you can change is yourself. When you change yourself – when you lead by example – often times the people closest to you will follow suit.”

“If the best version of you shows up to the party, you’ll be able to bring the best out of other people.”

The previous quote is both exciting and incredibly exhausting for me. I want to “be the best version of me” but it gets really tiring after a while. Sometimes I want to be lazy. Some times I want to only think of myself, sometimes I want it to be “all about me”. I guess we all get that way at times, but it is the best…when we can be our best!

Changing Yourself…Making Difficult Decisions…Be Your Best!

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Thoughts on “Minimalism: Living a Meaningful Life” Chapter 3 8/23/2012

For the next 7 weeks, starting on Monday 8/6, I am going to read a book called “Minimalism: Live A Meaningful Life” by Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus. I am reading one chapter a week (as suggested) and see where I end up. I want to invite you to join me for the next 7 weeks if it sounds interesting to you. Post what jumps out at you, I would love to compare notes!

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Chapter 3 of Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life

Evaluating Current Relationships:
How did you relationships “inventory” go? I found this honest look into all of my relationships quite insightful.

“Do they make you happy?”
“Do they satisfy you?”
“Are they supportive?”
“Do they help you grow?”
“Do they contribute to your life in positive, meaningful ways?”

I discovered some individuals that I would really like to see play a larger role in my life. And the above list reminded me that I want to be those things for others in my life, but I have to be intentional about doing it, or it will not happen.

There was definitely a lot to consider, but well worth the investment of time!

How did it go for you?

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Thoughts on “Minimalism: Living a Meaningful Life” Chapter 3 8/22/2012

For the next 7 weeks, starting on Monday 8/6, I am going to read a book called “Minimalism: Live A Meaningful Life” by Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus. I am reading one chapter a week (as suggested) and see where I end up. I want to invite you to join me for the next 7 weeks if it sounds interesting to you. Post what jumps out at you, I would love to compare notes!

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Chapter 3 of Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life

Relationships! “Your relationships are the most important of the five dimensions of living a meaningful life.

I have read through this chapter a few times and it was funning because last night this statement jumped off the page at me. So much in this chapter simply speaks for itself.

“The bottom line is that we all want to be loved. We all want to love. And we all want to have other people with whom we share out experiences.”

I thought the description of “past relationships” was interesting. “Living in the past is tantamount to driving using only the rearview mirror – eventually you will crash if you don’t know what’s going on in from of you.”

What has jumped out at you so far?

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Thoughts on “Minimalism: Living a Meaningful Life” Chapter 2 8/19/2012

For the next 7 weeks, starting on Monday 8/6, I am going to read a book called “Minimalism: Live A Meaningful Life” by Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus. I am reading one chapter a week (as suggested) and see where I end up. I want to invite you to join me for the next 7 weeks if it sounds interesting to you. Post what jumps out at you, I would love to compare notes!

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Chapter 2 of Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life

Turn your Shoulds into Musts!
“We encourage people to create must lists for various areas of their lives (i.e., create a list of things on which you have procrastinated, and turn those shoulds into musts – find the leverage so you can take action.)”

I know what I must do.
I know I should make a “must” list.
I know I should plan my “musts” into my day. Be intentional.
I know when I don’t feel like it, I still need to take care of my “musts”.

It’s hard, but lets do this! One day at a time, one week at a time, one year at a time.

I have changes I need to make and so do you.

Chapter 3 here we come!

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Thoughts on “Minimalism: Living a Meaningful Life” Chapter 2 8/17/2012

For the next 7 weeks, starting on Monday 8/6, I am going to read a book called “Minimalism: Live A Meaningful Life” by Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus. I am reading one chapter a week (as suggested) and see where I end up. I want to invite you to join me for the next 7 weeks if it sounds interesting to you. Post what jumps out at you, I would love to compare notes!

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Chapter 2 of Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life

Find What Works For You!

There is so much packed into this chapter on health that I wanted to share a general observation that I have made over the past few years. Find what works for you! What works for my husband does not work for me with food or exercise. It has been a process, but I have allowed him to have the freedom to eat and exercise in the way he feels necessary and I have the freedom to do the same. Sure, we have found some areas of common interest, but not many. This book is about FREEDOM, so experience some freedom in establishing your eating and exercise routines.

Also realize that finding what works for you will take some trial and error, but stick with it and enjoy the process.

I do personally like Joshua’s Exercise Principles (but feel free not to)!

“I only do exercises I enjoy.”
“Exercise relieves stress.”
“Variety keeps exercise fresh.”

Don’t forget that putting what you learn into action is very important in this process. Keep at it!

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Thoughts on “Minimalism: Living a Meaningful Life” Chapter 2 8/15/2012

For the next 7 weeks, starting on Monday 8/6, I am going to read a book called “Minimalism: Live A Meaningful Life” by Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus. I am reading one chapter a week (as suggested) and see where I end up. I want to invite you to join me for the next 7 weeks if it sounds interesting to you. Post what jumps out at you, I would love to compare notes!

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Chapter 2 of Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life

Feeling Better:
“The desire to improve your health has little to do with looking better.”

“Instead, we’re far more concerned about how you feel. We want you to feel better; looking better is a nice perk that is essentially guaranteed once you start feeling better.”

We all love to look good, but I certainly understand what the authors are getting at. A few years back I decided to lose 20 pounds and I did it through counting my calories and only allowing myself to have so many calories a day plus some exercise. I will never forget the day that I had a choice between a banana and a donut that were the same calories and I always went for the junk.

Yes, I lost the weight, but once I started to ramp up my exercise, I never had enough energy for the intense workout. I changed what I was eating and was AMAZED at how much better I felt. When I make healthier food choices, I have so much more energy and feel so much more focused.

What one change can you make today to eat healthier?

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Thoughts on “Minimalism: Living a Meaningful Life” 8/13/2012

For the next 7 weeks, starting on Monday 8/6, I am going to read a book called “Minimalism: Live A Meaningful Life” by Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus. I am reading one chapter a week (as suggested) and see where I end up. I want to invite you to join me for the next 7 weeks if it sounds interesting to you. Post what jumps out at you, I would love to compare notes!

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Day 8 of Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life

Defining Health:
“We believe your health is the best place to start your journey towards living a meaningful life. We want you to enjoy your life, and living a healthy lifestyle gives you the optimum condition to do so.”

I turned 40 this year and this year has been riddled with health issues. It has reminded me how important it is for me to prioritize my health so that I can be dancing a jig at the age of 80. Wherever you are on your health journey, start taking the next steps today!I have found that the more healthy habits I establish now, the better things are going to go down the road.

What is the one area that you need to focus on with regards to your health? What is one thing you can start doing today to move in that direction?