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Rock Tumbler – What John’s favorite toy can teach us about life

When I was a little boy, one of my favorite toys was a rock tumbler polishing kit.

The kit included a mechanized tumbling drum, some starter rocks and a couple of pouches of different polishing grits. It looked just like this one:

rock tumbler

You took the rough and nasty looking rocks, added some water and then the polishing grit (most coarse first) and then let the rocks tumble for over 24 hours in a rotating drum that was louder than a diesel semi using the jake brake.  You’d pull out the rocks, clean off the grit and then repeat the process with an finer grit. This process would happen 4 or 5 times and at the end you’d have the is incredibly beautiful polished rock.

I believe that learning to focus on your dreams, striving to leave average behind, is a process a whole lot like rock tumbling.

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Instant Gratification and Unhappiness

I wonder, just how many of us struggle with this..

Instant Gratification


I fall into this habit all to often: Filling the desire for instant gratification instead of embracing the suck and forging forward to the future reward.

Is there something that you want right now?

How can you postpone instant gratification and focus on the future reward of what you want most?

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Says Who? Expectation, Rule Following and Innovation

My entire life I’ve not been a morning person.

Not in the “I prefer to get up a little later” vein.

I’m a “I physically hate mornings” kind of person.

My mind gets sharp and running  around 9 pm and works great up until 3 am if I let it go (college was a fun place to learn about my alertness cycles).

According to many leadership and business experts, this is a crushing problem for me. You see, according to these experts, I need to get up early in the morning, plan my day, have a quiet prayer/meditation time, get breakfast and be ready to go to work and execute to be successful.

After much research and personal experimenting I respond to these experts: Says Who?

Says Who

With a quick Google search I can come up with pro’s and con’s to being both an early bird and a night owl. I’m sure I could start a passionate flame war on either or both sides of the issue.

And I’d be missing the point entirely…

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Is it worth the risk? Knowing what motivates you.

I’m at a crossroads right now.

I have some major decisions to make. Decisions about careers, health and fitness, passions and purpose. The kind of decisions that will necessarily require me to take risks to discover and make the moves.

As I’ve talked with my wife, family, friends, business leaders and my coach, an interesting pattern started to emerge. Some people were concerned about future earnings potential, others about my happiness, still others potential for advancement, and others on making a difference in peoples lives.

Almost as many people as I’ve been talking to, there are different types of advice on what to do, about whether the risks are worth it.


The reason for this boils down to motivation. Specifically what motivates an individual.

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Where Did The Time Go?

Busy. We’re all so incredibly busy.

It’s amazing how quickly time can rush by. I get to the weekend and it feels like yesterday was the start of the week.

It’s no wonder why so many people hate to set goals for their lives. There’s not enough time in the day to get these things done

…or is there?


The human brain is good at “being in the here and now”. When we look back at things, our brains tend to become a little less accurate. We remember things as being either better or worse than they were, but rarely can we accurately recall what happened. Our perceptions cloud our judgement.

It happens to us all. And that’s why we have such a hard time when we feel that we’re too busy.

We look back and there’s not a single extra minute that we could spend doing things that are important to advancing our goals. But we’re not seeing straight. There’s actually lots of time available, we just have to uncover it objectively.

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No One Really Cares…and That’s Good!


We’re all worried about what other people think of us.

But there’s a really interesting truth that we need to grasp: No one cares!

Except for a few close friends and family (and I mean a real few), no one really thinks about you (and me).

It’s a bit of an ego bust, not unlike the discovery that the sun doesn’t rotate around the earth, but we are not the center of everyone’s universe.

So why are we so worried about looking bad/stupid/silly/etc in other’s eyes?

The only people who will notice are those who are most important to you, and those that you are serving.

So start this week and do that thing you’ve been afraid to do for so long because of what people will think.

Volunteer with that group you admire, start a charity, run in the rain with your kids, throw away your TV, learn that new musical instrument, visit your parents, be free…

It’s your life…no one else cares…unleash your potential and make a difference in the world!

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What a jam session teaches us about life.


This past weekend in St. Louis a gathering of people interested in Irish music was held at a local pub. Sponsored by a local group of folks, the Tionol ( was a setting where musicians of all levels can get together, play music, and learn from each other.

The food was wonderful, Guiness was flowing and hundreds of people gathered both indoors and outdoors to experience the music that they loved.

I noticed some very applicable principles to all our lives while watching these informal session groups start, play and then dissolve.

  • You don’t need to ask for permission! You have all the permission you need to move forward in your life, you just need to jump in and get started. Folks would sit down, unpack their instrument, listen to the tunes and then start playing. Everyone would keep playing, you just needed to jump in.
  • Growth happens in the context of uncomfortable settings. The music was beautiful, but the looks of intense concentration on everyone’s faces showed that the beauty came with effort. Most people focused on their instrument, or the instrument of the person next to them as they learned the tunes and followed along. Don’t be afraid of the uncomfortable. Embrace it! Stretch yourself today and put yourself out where you might fail. This is where the great moments of life happen.
  • Spending time with like minded people speeds your growth. From the stooped, gray haired elders to the little girl who could hardly see over the table, everyone had tips and encouragement for each other. Questions were asked, instruments were looked over, and stories were told. At the end of the day, everyone was focused on the common goal of getting to play better and experience each other. Find a group of folks who share your passion and contribute to the group, it’s a wonderful feeling to be a part of something where the whole is greater than the sum of the parts.

Where can you apply these principles in your life today?

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Leadership Training and Personal Coaching Update

Today marks an exciting addition to the Lead Thru Example core Leadership and Coaching training services!

John Regan has gained his Certified Human Behavior Consultant (CHBC) accreditation.


This accreditation ties closely with the strategic goals of Lead Thru Example to help people discover what their strengths are and how their personality can be leveraged into a successful, satisfying, career, family and personal life.

John is certified to administer and help individuals and teams interpret the results of DISC personality assessments.

DISC is a quadrant behavioral model based on the work of Dr. William Moulton Marston (1893–1947) to examine the behavior of individuals in their environment or within a specific situation. Each of these personality types has its own unique value to the team, ideal environment, general characteristics, what the individual is motivated by, and value to team. DISC assessments focus on the styles and preferences of personal behavior as well as the blends of personalities that make it possible to integrate individual team members into areas that they are strong in. In a typical team, there are varying degrees of compatibility, not just toward tasks but interpersonal relationships as well.

DISC is used in an assortment of areas, including by many companies, HR professionals, non profit and faith based organizations, consultants, coaches and trainers.

John has been training people and teams in the successful use of DISC assessments since 2004 and has helped over 50 people to gain a better understanding of the personality behaviors and how to leverage them to live a more successful and satisfying life. John’s CHBC accreditation recognizes his successful understanding of the DISC model and how to help strategically implement the findings for both individuals and teams.

If you are interested in understanding your personality and strengths better or would like to assess and train your team to become more productive you can contact John to discuss the options for training. Both individuals and companies will be astounded at the insights they gain and the increases in productivity that can be achieved by discovering and understanding the DISC personality types.

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Just Do It! (with all deference to Nike)

The world we live in today is full of mixed messages.

• You have to have a retirement plan.
• What are your vacation plans?
• We’re going for review your performance plans.
• Just Do It!
• Carpe Diem




The truth, as always, lives somewhere in between.

As we launch Lead Thru Example, I’ve had to take this advice myself.

You see, I have a huge perfectionist streak as part of my personality.

I could literally spend hours and hours trying to get things tweaked, and never get to the point of launching.

I’m learning to embrace the concept of “permanent beta”.

Michael Hyatt aptly describes this concept in his article:

I’d encourage you today to take a 10 minute look at your life, find the “good enough”, stop talking, and take action.

Where can you embrace permanent beta in your life? Feel free to comment below.

Unleash Your Potential!