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How Herd Mentality Leads to Average

This post originally appeared on John’s blog at johndregan.info

Back when we were kids (young kids) we dreamed of what we would become.

An astronaut, cowboy, princess, fairy, super hero, fireman, police officer – the possibilities seemed endless.

But somewhere along the way to adulthood, we bought into a lie that leads to mediocrity, of being just average, instead of the vibrant person that we dreamed of.

Herd Mentality

We started to follow the “you should” of the herd. It’s a subtle shift that once started snowballs into a life lived barely alive.

You see, the herd is not comfortable with outliers (those things beyond the norm) because they are different and strange.  So we’re being told to become the most vanilla, bland and ordinary people that society can think of.

The beauty of the strange, the refreshment of the new, and the challenge of the change are ground off by the herd members who want to stay exactly safe, year after year.

According to the herd, you should:

  • Get a new car every two years
  • Get a huge new house
  • Buy an iPhone
  • Buy an Android
  • Buy, Buy, Buy
  • Go to college
  • Get married
  • Have kids
  • Go into debt to get want you want this very instant (waiting is for chumps, you know)
  • Take boner pills
  • Use anti-aging cream
  • Install fake hair on your head
  • Retire when you are old
  • Work for a company that doesn’t care about you
  • Commute every day
  • Try to find God in a church
  • Play sports
  • Watch the news
  • Get cable/satellite
  • Vote Democratic/Republican/Libertarian…blah, blah, blah
  • Suffer along with the rest of the herd

But it’s all a lie! The herd is just trying to get everyone to look like them, and in the process you end up with a lot of unhealthy input.

What if you could choose to become what you wanted to be?

What if you told the herd that is was time to leave average behind, and went out on your own path?

Would it scare you? Does it seem hopeless to even try? Would it really make a difference?

You can leave average behind by defining what your life should look like. You have to create a life plan where you detail what is a priority for you and what is not. It’s a process that my clients find both incredibly hard, and yet immensely satisfying when completed.

You also have to decide which relationships are important and which can be left behind. You have to say goodbye to unhealthy inputs into your life, whether in person or the media (TV, Radio, Social, Internet, Newspaper, etc.) that you are consuming.

The great thing about leaving average behind is that it looks different for every person. What one person is passionate about, another hates. AND THATS GREAT!!!

Do what you’re passionate about.

Make a difference in the world.

Tell the herd goodbye!

What’s one or two areas in your life that you need to tell the herd that you’re leaving average behind?